2022-06-26 - last updated 2022-06-27 (changelog)
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Children need to have their feelings accepted and respected.
“Oh… Mmmm… I see.
“That sounds frustrating!”
“I wish I could make the banana ripe for you right now!”
“I can see how angry your are at your brother. Tell him what you want with words, not fists”
“I’m furious that my new saw was left outside to rust in the rain!”
I expect my tools to be returned after they’ve been borrowed.
“You can borrow my tools and return them or you can give up the privilege of using them. You decide.”
Child: “Why is the toolbox locked?” Father: “You tell me why”
“What can we work out so that you can use my tools when you need them, and so that I’ll be sure they’re there when I need them?”
“Are you in the mood for your gray pants, or your red pants?”
“A jar can be hard to open. Sometimes it helps if you tap the lid with a spoon.”
“Glad to see you. Welcome home.”
“That’s an interesting question, what do you think?”
“Maybe the pet shop owner would have a suggestion.”
“So you’re thinking of trying out for the play! That should be an experience”
Instead of evaluating:
“I see a clean floor, a smooth bed, and books neatly lined up on the shelf.”
“It’s a pleasure to walk into this room!”
You sorted out your Legos, cars, and farm animals, and put them in separate boxes. That’s what I call organization!”
“You’ve had that toy since you were three and it almost looks like new!”
“Sara, would you take the screwdriver and tighten the pulls on these drawers?”
“He held his arm steady even though the shot hurt.”
“It’s hard to lose, buy I’ll try to be a sport about it. Congratulations!’
“I remember the time you…”
“I don’t like that. Despite your strong feelings, I expect sportsmanship from you.”